Online dating guy doesn't call
Can you please shed some light on what’s going on here?
”If a guy won’t call you his girlfriend after a month (two months tops), then I would say it means that he’s enjoying the relationship exactly where it is and at this moment will not take it any further unless he is inspired to.
When you ask about the weekend, he says he hasn’t given it much thought yet.
Don’t pick up the phone – wait to see what he does which will tell you a lot more about his agenda.3 If you call a man because you are impatient or think its not a bid deal, THINK AGAIN.
He was easy to talk to, had a good sense of humor, and had good answers to your questions. Then he finally calls you Friday at the end of the day to talk about the weekend. Last weekend you were free at the last minute, so what’s the big deal about making plans? If a man doesn’t have the same dating agenda as you, for example, he’s into casual dating and you are seeking long-term love, again, you might as find out sooner rather than later.
That simplistic answer cuts deep but has a great deal of validity. If he’s not that into you, you might as well know as soon as possible.
Now this isn’t something that you need to say, it should just come across in how you act.
I would say focus on being fun and lighthearted and enjoying the relationship for exactly what it is.
When you have a full life on your own (or appear that way) you are much more attractive to men. If he’s lazy and you don’t mind being in charge and doing everything in the relationship yourself – then go ahead and call him every weekend to see what plans you can come up with. (Or I’m free Sunday or Tuesday) You can feel free to offer an alternate time which let’s him know you are interested.
I guess the simple answer as to why he won’t call you his girlfriend is because he doesn’t have to.
To a guy, calling a woman his girlfriend is typically a huge pain in the ass and if the woman is making herself so available and so committed when he hasn’t committed to anything, why would he call her his girlfriend?
Why would the guy want to deepen a relationship when it doesn’t feel good and seems to only be getting worse?
My recommendation is to avoid badgering him about the topic.